When Karla met John, she thought she
had found the love of her life. Not wanting to jump into a relationship right
away, they decided to stay friends at first. They used to go out together to
clubs, to dinners, and most of the time, they would just hang out in Karla's
apartment watching TV or cooking. Karla was extremely happy for her "new
friend" and slowly, she started developing feelings for him. Since in her
mind she thought John also felt the same way, she shared with John her
feelings. What she didn't know was that a simple "I think I am falling in
love with you" was going to change the course of their
"friendship" forever.
After telling John that she was
falling in love with him, their friendship went sour. John started getting
distant from her. He didn't call her as often as before, and they stopped
hanging out together because, according to John, he was always busy at work.
Karla felt terrible for damaging her chances of starting a serious relationship
with John, but in reality she didn't damage anything; John was a declared
relationship phobic and the thought of getting romantically involved with
someone pushed him to run in the opposite direction, leaving Karla feeling used
and rejected.
Relationship or commitment phobia is
one of the most common phobias affecting people's lives. It refers to the
anxiety, fear and avoidance that certain people suffer when getting
romantically involved with other people. People suffering from this
"social disease" tend to avoid falling in the traps of love and go
through life jumping from one romantic relationship to another, leaving a trail
of deception and broken hearts along the way.
It is commonly known that people who
are suffering from relationship or commitment phobia may never allow themselves
to fall in love and will try to prevent others from entering their lives. When
this happens, they are not only putting a stop to their happiness, but it also
makes them shut people out, creating a painful situation for other people as
well.
There are many reasons for this type
of phobia. Some of the reasons include previous abusive relationship
experiences, child abuse or any other traumatic childhood experience, fear of
rejection and abandonment experiences. When people experience one of these
scenarios, it is very common for them to develop attachment issues or in this
case relationship or commitment phobia.
The most common signs of
relationship or commitment phobia are:
·
An uncontrollable feeling of anxiety when thinking about love
·
Fear of being "attached" to someone
·
A sudden feeling of "trapness" in a relationship
·
An inexplicable urge to sabotage a romantic relationship
·
Not being able to trust anyone who shows romantic feelings toward
them
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The tendency of pulling back as soon as they start falling in love
·
A history of unfaithfulness in romantic relationships
Let's face it my friends - love is
the most beautiful feeling a person can experience in life and being able to love
and be loved is one of the best gifts you can ever receive and also one of the
best gifts you can ever give to another person. If you are showing signs of
relationship/commitment phobia, I invite you to stop sabotaging your romantic
life and look for help. It is time for you to start enjoying other people's
company without feeling scared or anxious about it. Allow love to become an
active participant in your life and life will show you its purpose.
About the Author:
Marielys
Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach and the author of the book “Successful Coaching: 20 Tips for a Better
Life and Career Performance.” If
you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session, visit her website
at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at
success@mcrcoaching.com
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