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MCR Success Coaching is looking for highly motivated "workshop/presentation facilitators."

Workshop/presentation facilitators will be in charge on delivering an interactive workshop/presentation that inspires individuals to develop a sense of personal purpose, which is activated in their daily life.

This is a contractor's position (WAE).

For more information or to get a copy of the job announcement, contact us at success@mcrcoaching.com

Position closes on May 31, 2013

*** WE ARE HIRING ***

                                                          *** WE ARE HIRING ***

MCR Success Coaching is looking for highly motivated "workshop/presentation facilitators."

Workshop/presentation facilitators will be in charge on delivering an interactive workshop/presentation that inspires individuals to develop a sense of personal purpose, which is activated in their daily life.

This is a contractor's position (WAE).

For more information or to get a copy of the job announcement, contact us at success@mcrcoaching.com

Position closes on May 31, 2013

“It is not about how far you get, it is about making the journey worth it.” 

                                                                                       ~ Melody Morales ~ 

Some motivational words from inside of the book  "Coaching for Excellence! 55 Motivational Quotes for Career and Personal Success."

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Email vs Letters: The Art of Receiving “Mail”

It is not a secret that nowadays, the most use ways of communications are either via text or e-mail messages. Long gone are the days when we used to write paper-based letters to family members, friends, or clients. What have happened to us? Why technology has taken over our lives? Why are we allowing technology to control our lives?

I do not blame technology for these changes, I blame the human race for allowing technology to change the way we do things in life. I remember when I used to receive letters from my friends and family. Having the opportunity to hold those letters in my hands made me feel close to the person. I have to say that it was an amazing feeling. Not as closed as actually holding the person in my arms, but close enough.

I am not saying that technology is a bad thing; believe me, I love technology and all the good gadgets that are available to us at the present time. The truth is that those new inventions and ways of communicating can make a person’s life a lot easier than it was before, but my question is – why are we allowing technology interfere with the way we connect with people? 

Let’s face it – emails and text messages are great tools, but our society can’t afford to let these new technology inventions to take control and to contribute to the loss of “human touch” in our lives anymore. Today, I would like to invite you all to put your computers to the side and to grab a piece of paper and a pen and start writing letters to your family members of friend who live far away. Doing this will help you provide your relatives something that is actually created by you and that they can hold on to it as a memory.

As we all know, we live in a crazy fast-paced world and even when most of us have plenty of computer knowledge and feel confident about our computer abilities, there are also people who don’t have the same abilities and may have a hard time dealing with all the chaos involved with receiving or sending email or text messages (e.g., fancy fonts, emoticons, and abbreviations like LOL, etc.).

That been said – let’s take control of our lives by writing letters instead of sending e-mails. Let’s provide our relatives something they can open with their own hands and not with the click of a bottom. By writing letters instead of e-mails you can provide your relatives a “touchable” object that they can smell and hug not only as a gift from you but also as a part of you. Let’s start making our relatives/friends feel loved and close to us again. Remember - e-mails are instant but the feeling of satisfaction after receiving a letter will last forever.

One last thought – “The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.” ~ Anthony Robbins ~

About the Author:

Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach and the author of the book “Successful Coaching: 20 Tips for a Better Life and Career Performance.” If you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session, visit her website at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at success@mcrcoaching.com

Infidelity: Tips to Move Pass the Affair and Re-build your Marriage

The day Lori discovered that her husband was having an affair, she thought she was in a bad dream and that after waking up, everything was going to be back to normal. The sad part about this is that unfortunately, she was not living a dream. It was a reality – she has just discovered that her husband of 13 years and the father of her two children had an eight months extramarital affair with another woman. She knew right there that her life was about to change forever.

Lori’s story is one of the many sad stories involving infidelity. According to Marriage Builder (2011), more than 50% of all spouses will become victims of infidelity. What they mean about this is that five out of 10 spouses will suffer the greatest marital pain possible at some point during their lifetimes. As upsetting, hurtful, and devastating this experience could be, there are many ways to overcome it. Life does not stop after an infidelity. It is true that being in the receiving end of an infidelity can shift your life around, but the important part here is to understand that it is not the end of the world and if you are committed to make your marriage work, you can still collect the pieces that are left and go pass that terrible experience.

Many people believe that after an infidelity, the marriage will never be the same and that the couple dealing with the experience will never be able to have a happy marriage. Lori (the betrayed spouse mentioned at the beginning of the article) used to think that way until she decided to fight for her marriage. “Our marriage was never the same, but after deciding to forgive and forget and move pass my husband’s infidelity, we were able to re-build the trust and create a stronger marriage,” she said.

If like Lori you have been the victim of an infidelity and have decided to fight for your marriage but find yourself struggling with the whole situation, continue reading. Below are some helpful tips to help you survive this experience and move on with your life. Yes, finding out that your other half betrayed you could be a painful experience, but what you do after you find out is what is going to establish the course that your marriage is going to take.      

·         Understand why the affair happened: Talk to your spouse and together, try to identify the reasons why your marriage situation pushed your other half to fall in the arms of a third person. Only by identifying those areas that need improvement is that both of you will be able to fix them. This is not an easy thing to do and will require both of you to be honest with each other but the reality is that something may not be working properly in your marriage if the other person had the necessity to be with other people.

·         Commit to each other to re-build the trust: Make a point of making each other happy and working hard in rebuilding the marriage trust. This will sound corny but make your spouse the center of your world and become the center of his/her world. Show the world that you are meant to be together and that not even a bad experience will ever destroy what you guys have. Again, another difficult decision, especially after experiencing all the pain but it can be done if you decide to fight for your marriage.

·         Leave the past where it belongs – in the past: As simple as that. You will never be able to change what happened so try to forgive and NEVER bring that experience back into your marriage discussions. Not even when you feel like getting back at your spouse after he/she did something to get you upset. I am not saying that you will be able to forget because unfortunately, you will never forget what happened but you can forgive and try to start a new chapter in your marriage. 

·         Seek professional help: Seeking the help of a marriage counselor is a resource that you should consider. Talking to a professional who can provide impartial suggestions and guidance could be the difference between spending years trying to re-build your marriage with no luck or successfully putting everything in the pass and moving on with your life.

·         Understand that rebuilding your marriage trust will take time: Moving pass the affair and working in rebuilding the trust in the marriage are very time consuming, frustrating, and stressful tasks to complete. The important part here is to understand that it is completely normal to feel that way and that it will take time to rebuild that trust, but if all the parts involved work together in rebuilding the marriage, before you even know it, you once again will be living a happy and stronger marriage.

Let’s be honest - an infidelity is one of those experiences that could easily break the strongest person in earth, but if you want to make your marriage work and you are willing to forgive and create a better marriage, deciding to “survive it” and to move past the experience could be the most important decision that you will ever make in your life.

If you are going through a rough path in your marriage due to an infidelity, today I invite you to gather all the pieces and decide what is that you want to do with them. You have two choices; either you throw those pieces in the garbage and start a new life or try to put the pieces back together and rebuild your marriage. The fact is that only you can make that decision and only you know what is best for you so go ahead and do it but make sure that whatever decision you make is the one that is going to make YOU happy.  

Let’s face it my friends - sometimes life experiences are not fair and could bring a lot of pain a deception into our lives but living them, surviving them, and using them as tools not to make the same mistakes again will be the key for our success. 

About the Author:

Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach and the author of the book “Successful Coaching: 20 Tips for a Better Life and Career Performance.” If you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session, visit her website at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at success@mcrcoaching.com

Emotional Intelligence and its effect in decision-making processes

Have you ever wondered the effect that your emotions (especially negative emotions) have in the decisions you make in your life? Or, how your reactions could have a tremendous impact in other people’s opinion toward you? If you do, there is something you should know. The way people manage their emotions and reactions play an important role in the decisions they make. Making sure to use our emotions “intelligently” could be the difference between a decision made based on actual facts and a decisions made based on current human emotions. Just in case you are wondering if this “action” has a real name – yes, it does. This action is commonly known as the inclusion of the “emotionally intelligence” concept into all our decision-making processes.

Emotional intelligence (E.I.) is defined as the ability to understand, manage, and value our emotions and other people’s emotions at the moment of making decisions or establishing arguments. According to the article Emotional Intelligence in Health Care written by Kathryn Faguy in January 2012, the first definitive use of the term “emotional intelligence” is believed to be in a doctoral dissertation by Wayne Payne in 1968. However, Payne’s theory was never published. In 1983, psychologist Howard Gardner proposed seven different types of intelligence, including knowing one’s inner world and social adeptness. Those two notions together come close to capturing E.I. as it is currently understood.

It is not a secret that people sometimes behave, act, and react based on their current emotional stage but the truth is that allowing our emotions to take part during our decision-making processes (especially when making important and/or crucial decisions) is one of the bigger mistake we could ever make.

How many of you have made a decision in the “heat of the moment” just to later realize that it was a bad decision and that you should have thought about the consequences before making the decision? If you are one of those people who tend to let their emotions to have an active role in the way they make decisions, we invite you to continue reading.  Below, are four important tips to help you incorporate the emotional intelligence concept not only into your decision-making processes but also into other aspects of your life.

·         Identify and analyze the problem or the situation on hand: When facing a situation, problem, or when life puts you in the position of having to make an important decision, you have to develop an intelligent approach to it by identifying and analyzing the problem or situation to have a better idea on how you are going to manage it. By identifying the main idea of the issue, you will have greater opportunity to create an “attacking” plan without deviating from the actual situation.

·         Develop an emotional self-awareness plan: Let’s face it. Most of the time, we know when a situation is about to makes us feel upset or to drive us straight into a frustration mode. The important part here is to learn how to identify those signs of desperation and discontent to be able to create a plan to help us in controlling them. A solid and well-established self-awareness plan is the number one resource of emotionally intelligent individuals. It helps us not only in recognizing our emotions and to be aware of the effect they could have in our decision but also in preventing us from making decision based in those emotions. 

·         Understand the reasons for your emotions and reactions:  Understanding what is the real reason for you to feel the way you do is a very important process because it also helps you in matching your emotions with a real problem. Sometimes, people develop emotions and react in certain way, but they don’t know why so they blame their current emotional stage to the last situation that happened in their lives. This could push them into making erroneous decisions. Taking an impartial look to the situation and trying to identify the reasons for you to react the way you do will help you in putting a face to the problem and to deal with it the best way possible without letting your emotions get in the way.

·         Go ahead - make a decision, but based them on fact; not on emotions: The fact is that once you learn how to manage your emotions and reactions and decide not to let them control or interfere with your life, you will be more than ready to make emotionally intelligent decisions.

People who understand their own feelings and emotions and don’t let them sabotage the way they make decisions can have a better chance in managing situations more effectively and proactively. It also helps them not only in making better and more successful decisions but also in learning how to take control of their lives by becoming emotionally intelligent individuals. 

About the Author:

Marielys Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach and the author of the book “Successful Coaching: 20 Tips for a Better Life and Career Performance.” If you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session, visit her website at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at success@mcrcoaching.com