Have you
ever wondered the effect that your emotions (especially negative emotions) have
in the decisions you make in your life? Or, how your reactions could have a
tremendous impact in other people’s opinion toward you? If you do, there is
something you should know. The way people manage their emotions and reactions
play an important role in the decisions they make. Making sure to use our
emotions “intelligently” could be the difference between a decision made based
on actual facts and a decisions made based on current human emotions. Just in
case you are wondering if this “action” has a real name – yes, it does. This
action is commonly known as the inclusion of the “emotionally intelligence”
concept into all our decision-making processes.
Emotional
intelligence (E.I.) is defined as the ability to understand, manage, and value
our emotions and other people’s emotions at the moment of making decisions or
establishing arguments. According to the article Emotional Intelligence in Health Care written by Kathryn Faguy in January 2012, the first definitive
use of the term “emotional intelligence” is believed to be in a doctoral
dissertation by Wayne Payne in 1968. However, Payne’s theory was never
published. In 1983, psychologist Howard Gardner proposed seven different types
of intelligence, including knowing one’s inner world and social adeptness.
Those two notions together come close to capturing E.I. as it is currently
understood.
It is not a secret
that people sometimes behave, act, and react based on their current emotional
stage but the truth is that allowing our emotions to take part during our
decision-making processes (especially when making important and/or crucial
decisions) is one of the bigger mistake we could ever make.
How many of
you have made a decision in the “heat of the moment” just to later realize that
it was a bad decision and that you should have thought about the consequences
before making the decision? If you are one of those people who tend to let
their emotions to have an active role in the way they make decisions, we invite
you to continue reading. Below, are four
important tips to help you incorporate the emotional intelligence concept not
only into your decision-making processes but also into other aspects of your
life.
·
Identify and analyze the problem or
the situation on hand:
When facing a situation, problem, or when life puts you in the position of
having to make an important decision, you have to develop an intelligent
approach to it by identifying and analyzing the problem or situation to have a
better idea on how you are going to manage it. By identifying the main idea of
the issue, you will have greater opportunity to create an “attacking” plan
without deviating from the actual situation.
·
Develop an emotional self-awareness
plan: Let’s face it.
Most of the time, we know when a situation is about to makes us feel upset or to
drive us straight into a frustration mode. The important part here is to learn
how to identify those signs of desperation and discontent to be able to create
a plan to help us in controlling them. A solid and well-established
self-awareness plan is the number one resource of emotionally intelligent
individuals. It helps us not only in recognizing our emotions and to be aware
of the effect they could have in our decision but also in preventing us from
making decision based in those emotions.
·
Understand the reasons for your
emotions and reactions: Understanding what is the real reason
for you to feel the way you do is a very important process because it also
helps you in matching your emotions with a real problem. Sometimes, people
develop emotions and react in certain way, but they don’t know why so they
blame their current emotional stage to the last situation that happened in
their lives. This could push them into making erroneous decisions. Taking an
impartial look to the situation and trying to identify the reasons for you to
react the way you do will help you in putting a face to the problem and to deal
with it the best way possible without letting your emotions get in the way.
·
Go ahead - make a decision, but based
them on fact; not on emotions: The fact is that once you learn how to manage your emotions
and reactions and decide not to let them control or interfere with your life, you
will be more than ready to make emotionally intelligent decisions.
People who
understand their own feelings and emotions and don’t let them sabotage the way
they make decisions can have a better chance in managing situations more
effectively and proactively. It also helps them not only in making better and
more successful decisions but also in learning how to take control of their
lives by becoming emotionally intelligent individuals.
About the Author:
Marielys
Camacho-Reyes is a career/life coach and the author of the book “Successful Coaching: 20 Tips for a Better
Life and Career Performance.” If
you would like to receive a one-time free coaching session, visit her website
at www.mcrcoaching.com or email her at
success@mcrcoaching.com
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